Day: July 15, 2017

One of my friends posted an interesting question on Facebook regarding relationships between men and women, “Is there a difference between a mate and a match?”  I pondered that for a while. I even left Facebook and returned to read that question again. I do believe there is a difference and have only learned or concluded this difference recently. When I was young, I wore the t-shirt over my head so it would hang long down my back. I wore my mom’s old dress she let me play dress up in and I held, from what I can recollect, a bouquet of “stuff” I used as flowers.  My thoughts were of the fairy tale nature and my Prince Charming was still of my imagination! I think ALL little girls have these thoughts, dream these dreams and long for their vibrant imaginations to become real! As I am now an adult, I have realized that all those thoughts and all those dreams and that vibrant imagination is not reality… however it can be what YOU define it as and what YOU make it to be. So as a little girl, I did not even begin to realize relationships between man and woman, mate versus match or anything of that nature.

On this day and in this hour, Saturday, July 15, 2000, at 4pm, 17 years ago, I married my best friend. Happy Anniversary to us💗🥂 As I reflect on the gorgeous day with God, family, and friends, I realize the difference and have answered that question. I believe the difference between a match and a mate is that a match is two people equally yoked and a mate is around for a reason or season! Think about it… if you have a roomMATE, that peroson may be there for the reason of companionship or to help pay bills.  Your classMATE is there for a season of school years to be reunited in chance meetings! A match is like a pair of shoes, you need both to stand firm, walk safely and to climb mountains when needed or walk easily on a clear, sunny day!

Our relationship, likes others, has seen its ups and downs. Thankfully more ups than downs😊 But I think a true test of our faith came when I was diagnosed with breast CANcer. I had so many thoughts going on in my head. What was going to happen to me, but most importantly, what was going to happen to my family. We definitely made sure our son continued with as much normalcy as allowed, however, I worried about my husband’s health and emotions. When I expressed my fears with him, like the coach that he is, he told me not worry, everything will be alright, and one of his favorite reassurances, “I got it!” He stayed by my side, went to treatments, missed his own appointments, took care of our son when I couldn’t, cooked, cleaned, kept me comfortable and made sure I wanted for nothing. We watched karate movies and reality shows on the couch and even exchanged the crazy Facebook videos that kept us laughing! My soul match indeed!

To this day, from my bald head to this newly growing fuzz, my soul match sees me as I am. Happy 17th Anniversary to my Soulmatch💗