One year ago today, I was given the most horrific news anyone could possibly get…”Michele, I’m really sorry to have to tell you this, but you do have breast cancer and it’s very aggressive…stage 3…”. It was a Friday, October 14th. I was at school when I got the news. I had asked my doctor to call me as soon as she knew. Dr. Smith delivered our son and she knows I don’t like to “beat around the bush”. Tell me and tell me now…no I don’t want to sit on a couch in an office, I want to know now! It was like yesterday, I remember my phone ringing and me asking my colleague to watch my class while I took an important call. Needless to say, I was devastated. My whole life flashed before my eyes. How would I tell my husband, my son, my family and friends….was I going to die, was I going to live, how could I leave this Earth…I have so much more to do, to see. It was all overwhelming. After talking to my doctor and discussing the next steps, I went back to my class like nothing happened and continued on with my day. I had to…no choice, didn’t want anyone to know something was terribly wrong, didn’t want to tell anyone before my husband and didn’t want my students to know. It was a dreadful day that turned into a perfect storm.

Have you ever been through a storm and thought it would never end? A feeling of fear and uncertainty encompassed your every thought…then daylight…sun…calmness. We face storms all the time in our relationships, work, abilities, etc. Storms come when we least expect them and when we are warned and take time to prepare. I was warned (I found a lump) and I was prepared (I got my mammogram, ultrasound, and biopsy). What I least expected was it to be malignant. My storm was this tumor that took over my breast. All my life, I had been rather healthy, energetic, and strong. Now this cancer entered my body like a hurricane, typhoon, any type of extreme weather you could think of, and destroyed my thoughts of the future I had intended. Cancer ravaged my mind, soaked my spirit, and flooded my body with unwelcomed cells. My storm was raging inside me and clouding my vision. A year ago today, I allowed a diagnosis to change my way of thinking, my attitude, and my hope. Then, there was a calmness, an acceptance and a will to live. “So what do I need to do first Dr. Smith?” The storm seemed to relinquish my mind and allow me to see the light. It was time to fully understand what my family was about to face and how we were going to get through it. God told me that if anything, I would see his face. If I was ready to live and fulfill his purpose, I would see his glory. As I reflect a year later, I understand more now what I heard God speak into my heart. My storm has blessed my life with new visions and opportunities, new purpose in life and appreciation for everything I have. I thank God everyday for His mercy and His grace and know that I am covered. Now with that comes more responsibility. Education in early detection and prevention, nutrition and a healthier lifestyle, all of which should be shared with others. My writing has been therapeutic for me, but I hope it continues to be educational and inspirational for others.
After the perfect storm, there usually lies a perfect rainbow. During my storm, I had to learn about the rainbow. Learn about the gift of life and what that really means. A diagnosis is not death, it’s a diagnosis. It tells you there is a problem, an issue, a situation, a concern…however, you want to call it, a diagnosis. No doctor, and I have seen several, told me I was going to die! No doctor said, you might as well give up! My God, doesn’t even conceive of these thoughts so I had to come to my own understanding and see that rainbow that God provides after those storms. Psychology will tell you that each one of those colors has meaning and can provoke thoughts that those colors represent. As a student of psychology, I know it is true and believe in God’s purpose in the smallest to the biggest of storms and rainbows.
My rainbow: Red gives me the energy to go on as I am covered in the blood of Jesus, Orange allows me to be optimistic, Yellow gives me an intelligent mind to read and understand the journey, Green keeps me balanced and able to see how I can demonstrate growth through the struggle, reborn in this world and renewed in my spirit, Blue brings me peace, trusting in only Him as doctors are used as his vessels, Indigo continues my woman and mama intuition, I still have a husband and a son to take care of and need my senses to be of sound mind, and Violet leaves chance to my imagination. I can continue to dream BIG, fulfill my purpose of this Earth, and be the light that God wants me to be for others.
My CANcer Wisdom to you: You may not be able to prepare for the storms that come, but if you awake to a new day, you can assess the damage, clean up the mess, and make a plan to rebuild, emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually! There will be storms and there will be rainbows…will you wallow in the storm or be hopeful for the rainbows?


We’ve waited many years…99 to be exact, for this wonderful sight! School endings were delayed, families marveled, co-workers gathered, animals were confused, insects hovered…all to witness an act of God! For some, it was in totality, for others, it was enough to realize that something was changing, something was different. I was excited about the possibility of seeing a once in a lifetime event. I was ready with t-shirt and glasses in hand. While I’m looking through my glasses, of course, I’m seeing the sun slowly disappear, a slight haze come over the playground, the temperature slowly decreasing, and then….I hear this complaining…”…when is the eclipse…when is it going to get dark…this is a waste of time…we have to stay late for this….I left work early for this…they ended school early for this???????” I was discouraged for a moment, not believing that students and adults would complain about something they could not control or plan for. My mood was almost ruined, then I thought to myself, everyone is not in the place you are Michele, everyone is not looking through the same lens as you. One might ask, well what does that mean? Well, finding out you have a disease that changes your life or can be life threatening will cause you to see life through a different lens.
As I ignored the complaining, I reflected on my own views relative to the eclipse and what I’ve been through. I see and look for symbols, things that make me see how blessed I am, symbols that keep me optimistic and hopeful of things to come. I look at the sun as life before my diagnosis, bright, shining, always high…I look at the Earth as me, massive, full of strength, many valleys, rivers, mountains, depth…and then the moon, passing by, leaving darkness, giving shade. The total eclipse, there is always light behind the moon, waiting to shine again. Shade and darkness only lasting but a few minutes, enough to make a difference but not enough to scare away hope!
I believe CANcer has been My Total Eclipse and has brought me to my new reality, out from the darkness, in front of the shade, back in the light with bigger and brighter hope.
One of my friends posted an interesting question on Facebook regarding relationships between men and women, “Is there a difference between a mate and a match?” I pondered that for a while. I even left Facebook and returned to read that question again. I do believe there is a difference and have only learned or concluded this difference recently. When I was young, I wore the t-shirt over my head so it would hang long down my back. I wore my mom’s old dress she let me play dress up in and I held, from what I can recollect, a bouquet of “stuff” I used as flowers. My thoughts were of the fairy tale nature and my Prince Charming was still of my imagination! I think ALL little girls have these thoughts, dream these dreams and long for their vibrant imaginations to become real! As I am now an adult, I have realized that all those thoughts and all those dreams and that vibrant imagination is not reality… however it can be what YOU define it as and what YOU make it to be. So as a little girl, I did not even begin to realize relationships between man and woman, mate versus match or anything of that nature.


Friday, at 3:42pm, I was officially released by the radiologist! Another mission in my journey complete. Besides some scaring and an unwanted half boob tan … I’m good! I must say though, my 33 visits … yes 33 visits, consecutively, since the middle of May, were a little taxing, but the staff there were GREAT! At the Radiotherapy Clinics of Georgia, Snellville, I felt like the only one receiving treatment. They knew me by name and I never had to wait (…but I guess if you go somewhere for 33 days at the same time, you will be known)! When it comes to customer service, Miss Carla the receptionist, exchanged the same pleasantries with me each and every time. Dr. McElveen and her staff were the best!
According to the American Cancer Society, there are about 252,710 new women who are diagnosed with invasive breast cancer (cancer has spread to lymph nodes and/or other organs) and about 63,410 women with no-invasive breast cancer, the earlier stages.
When doctors say you are CANcer free, it’s such a weight lifted. However, that weight is replaced with insecurities, recoveries and new discoveries of how your life will NOW be lived! Before I was diagnosed and long before I new anyone with CANcer, I thought CANcer free meant that’s it… everything is all good, back to normal. Hair grows back, strength is restored and life is great! I am learning in MY journey that there is no such thing as CANcer free…
A week ago today, I took a turn on my journey that would determine the next chapter in my life. My CANcer Chronicles…
Northside Hospital really has gone above and beyond in this process!!!
12:30pm I am back in my pre-op space with the nurse who packed me in this aluminum foil package which my son called my plastic bag! I joked with him on the phone about the doctors having to “bake mommy” like a hot pocket! Little did I know I wasn’t so far from the truth! This contraption was to keep me good and warm for surgery…. just like keeping the ribs warm at a barbecue! I was so hungry! I then received pain medication, anxiety medication, a patch behind my ear for nausea and a continuation of fluids through the IV which was supposed to be my breakfast and lunch since I couldn’t eat before surgery.